One day I was on the commuter rail train headed to work in Boston, MA from my home in Worcester ,MA. I noticed an advertisement on the wall of the train. I don’t remember what the advertisement was for but it said that “life begins at 50”. I did the calculation and realized that Kylee, who is the youngest of my six children would turn 18 when I was 52. A light bulb went off in my mind and I said to myself, “Yes, life begins at 52!” Kylee would be heading off to college at 18 and I would finally have my life back. I know for some that may seem kind of harsh but I was ready to start living for me again. I had became a mother at the age of 21 and every two years had another child until the age of 29. I had my last child at 34. Now, don’t get me wrong I love my children but as mothers know being a mother is a sacrifice. We sacrifice our wants for what is needed for our children. I always say that having children kept me out of trouble because while my friends were in the clubs partying, I was home caring for my children. Its hard to get a babysitter for six children, so any things that I desired to do outside of work had to be sacrificed. That most definitely included going put to the night club! That was strictly forbidden.
When my son Kylee, was diagnosed at three years old as being developmentally delayed, the full impact of what that meant wasn’t broken down to me in lay men terms until he was nine years old. And then I realized that he would live with me for the rest of my life. I then said to myself that I could forget about life beginning at 52. When you are a mother you are one for the rest of your life but when your children leave home you no longer have to focus on them. You know longer have to worry about being home at a certain time so you can cook dinner for them or make your plans around them. Your time becomes your own and you can make plans around what you want to do.
Fast forward to today, I am 52 years of age. Kylee is still living at home with me and my husband. He is 19 and attends a spcecial education program that is preparing him to work. However, God has surprised me!
My life did begin at 52 because it is at this age that I have focus on my purpose in life. At 49 I left full time employment to be home to care for Kylee. He needed intense supervision which I could not provide working 40 hours a week. I became his full time care giver. Due to this I was able to start my own business, Tree Of Life Naturals. I was 49 at the time. Three years into the business, I desired more than a hair and skin care product company. I began to focus on helping other women. I am in ministry but I wanted to do something outside of ministry. Then bingo, it hit me again (these bingos are actually downloads>insert link to my blog on downloads> from God). I needed to start branding myself as a women in her 50’s that could help other women in their 50’s navigate through life using the Bible has my base but delving in to their lives as women. Now I don’t have it all figured out but I know that my abilities; to write and work a computer are a big part of it (hence this article).
I want to work with women, especially those that are in their 50’s that are unsure of what to do with their lives and are feeling useless. Their children may have left the nest and they don’t know what to do because they have always just been a mother and never got to know who they are.