There are things in life that can make you or break you. The quality of confidence is one of those things. In any case, confidence can make you more likable, approachable and even assist you in your professional life. On the other hand, though, a lack of confidence can make you appear inexperienced, awkward, and sometimes, amateur.
In an attempt to maintain transparency, I will acknowledge that my confidence is still a work in progress. I have the skill and the ability to do all the work that I offer professionally, but talking about it is a struggle. Acknowledging my accomplishments, my skills, and my expertise is difficult. I’m sure plenty of people struggle with something similar, because we live in a time where we deem it necessary to compare ourselves to others.
I can do this well, but not as good as her.
I’m great at this, but he has more experience.
I recently spoke with someone that literally helped me to see how this is holding me back. She helped me to see that if I don’t believe in myself, then no one else will believe in me either.
So what do you do?
Know your worth. All the experience, education, and skill that you have was obtained with hard work. Acknowledge that, first and foremost. Sometimes, it’s good to say out loud what you’ve accomplished. If you’re afraid to come off as arrogant or haughty, then practice describing your expertise in a modest way. Modesty can be achieved, while still showcasing what you excel at.
Speak in a way that convinces you. You are your hardest critic. You know what will and wont sound good. You know what skills are impressive to others. Use this to your advantage. Analyze and examine your skill set. Find the value in each skill and then determine which ones are important enough to be expanded on.
It all comes down to showing yourself the love that you want others to show you. Imagine how greater your pitch will be if you’re simply excited to share it with them! Imagine how easy it will be to sell a service, if you know they need this.
The trick is to convince yourself. Only then, can you successfully convince others.
In what areas do you sometimes struggle with being confident?